Shame-Informed Therapy

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"Sometimes I feel like there is this part of me that is just unworthy of love."

What is shame?

Definitions for shame vary from expert to expert, but all share one common aspect—to feel shame, means to feel as if a part of us is flawed and/or unworthy. This flawed or unworthy feeling is often placed upon us consciously or unconsciously by the external world. To combat this feeling of shame we tend to disown those parts of ourselves that we feel ashamed of, hoping that it will minimize those feelings. Unfortunately that only serves as a band-aid. These disowned parts continue to be triggered and/or influenced throughout our life impacting how we view ourselves and navigate the world around us. 

 

What are examples of shame?

We can be shamed for just about anything— sexual orientation, gender identity/expression, sexual preferences, mannerisms, and personality to name a few.

"Evidence-based shame-informed therapy."

What is shame-informed therapy? 

I work with shame through a compassion-focused lens, with the goal of helping you begin to understand the shame scripts that have impacted your life so that you can learn strategies to rewrite those scripts from a place of self-acceptance, strength, and compassionate self-understanding. I incorporate evidence-based approaches that are grounded in relational neuroscience and the mind-body relationship.  

 

I have particular expertise working with shame around sexual orientation, gender identity, relationship style, sexuality/intimacy, and sexual preferences (i.e. kink).