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"Recovery is the freedom to make choices in your life that aren't determined by the abuse." 

1 in 6 men have faced sexual abuse in their lifetime.

 

Someone is sexually assaulted every 68 seconds in the United States.

 

28% of U.S. youth ages 14-17 have been sexually victimized in their lifetime.

 

Survivors of sexual abuse, assault, trauma, and incest can struggle to find their voice in a society that stigmatizes and silences male sexual trauma. This leads many individuals to stay quiet—suppressing, reframing, or minimizing their very true experiences.

 

While this may work to numb out the experience for some time, it ultimately surfaces in subtle—and not so subtle—ways such as depression, risky behavior, rocky relationships, sexual health concerns, anger, insecurity, struggles with careers, substance use, shame, and emotional or social isolation.

 

Healing begins when we allow ourselves to hear our own voice. It takes strength and courage to recognize for ourselves that an "unwanted sexual experience" as a child or adult was and is traumatic.

 

Whether you decide to name it as abuse, incest, trauma, or something else, the very fact that you have acknowledged it is a huge step. The fact that you are seeking support through therapy is an act of resilience in and of itself. 

Integrating relational neuroscience and somatic understanding of the mind-body connection, we will work together to understand how these past experiences have had an impact throughout your personal, professional, sexual, social, and romantic life. Together, we will process its influence on your perceptions of self and relationships with others. We will identify the coping strategies that you have used throughout to maintain some sense of safety and control, and expand upon those initial coping strategies, that may at times be unhelpful in present day.    

Tools fostered throughout our sessions include: emotional and body-based regulation skills, self-compassion, effective communication, embracing resiliency, and somatic affective awareness.

- Mike Lew, Victims No Longer

"Evidence-based therapy for survivors of sexual abuse, trauma, & incest."

I provide support for non-offending survivors of the following:

Childhood Sexual Abuse

Clergy Abuse

Emotional Incest

(i.e. covert incest, childhood spousification, co-dependent parents)

Overt Incest

(i.e. physical, sexual, explicit incest)

Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse or Assault

Reclaiming Sexuality after Sexual Trauma

Shame Related to Sexual Trauma, Erotic Desires, or Sexuality

Sibling Sexual Abuse

Sexual Trauma