Kink-aware and affirmative therapy Bergen County, NJ 07450
"Non-pathologizing support from someone who has experience working with the kink community."

Many medical and mental health providers claim to be "kink friendly" or "kink affirming" but lack foundational knowledge of human sexuality, erotic orientation, and concepts specific to the kink, BDSM, leather, and consensually non-monogamous scenes. You shouldn't feel like you have to "teach" your therapist about your community, relationship structure, and play interests in order to receive care. 

 

I have received extensive education and consultation in human sexuality, Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diversity, and kink/BDSM. Most of the clients that I work with are members of marginalized communities, with many involved in various kink communities. My goal is to provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you feel free to be your authentic self.

As a kink-aware and poly/CNM friendly therapist:

- I won't assume that the issue you are seeking help with is caused by or related to your kink or CNM orientation. 

- I won't try to "cure" you of your BDSM, kink, or CNM desires. You cannot "cure" what is an inherent part of who you are. 

I won't assume abuse when you are in a BDSM relationship.

I won't assume infidelity when in a kink or CNM relationship.

I won't assume that just because you are into kink that you are also not interested in "vanilla" sexual acts.

I will be aware that any distress or shame you may have about your kink or CNM identity may be a part of internalized kink/poly-phobia that we are all consciously and unconsciously taught in our society. 

I will be sensitive to whether and how your kink or CNM identity impacts your social, romantic, and family relationships. 

I will continue to educate myself on alternative sexualities and the kink community through continuing education, clinical consultation, and training provided by kink/BDSM practitioners in the community. 

Tools fostered throughout our sessions include: emotional and body-based regulation skills, self-compassion, effective communication, resiliency building, and neuro-affective-somatic awareness.

 

 

I provide kink-aware support for the following:

Coming Out Kinky

Dating & Relationship Stressors

Questioning Sexuality, Gender Identity, or Erotic Orientation 

Sexual Health & Intimacy Concerns

Shame Related to Sexuality, Erotic Desires, or Kink